Something made me sad today....

There aren't too many things that really shock me, crumbs i was a soldier once. There aren't too many things that make me real angry or disappointed but today i overheard a mother and her child and i was just devastated for the poor kid. I do not know them, the child goes to my sons school. That is where any relationship with us ends. But as we were waiting to meet the girls, David and I stood by a tree outside the school gates. It was not raining hard but the awful fine mist that soaks you through! The child arrives at it's mother (term used so loosely here) and the conversation goes:

mother: "Why the f*** are you late?"
child: "My teacher wanted to see me. I got star of the day!" (child sounds quite pleased with self)
mother: " who gives a f*** I'm soaking wet, lets get f****** home."

My heart just broke. I do not know these people but i was so sad for that child. Star of the day is something earned, for being good, working hard and pleasing your teacher. It IS something to be celebrated not thrown away and stamped on. While the child had no certificate to speak of, it must have been truly crushed that its hard work did not please it's parent. I was absolutely astounded how a lady posing as a mother could be so cruel. So what she was wet, so what the child came out a little later than usual, is that not totally made up for by the teacher deeming it necessary to praise the child for its achievements?

My poor son looked at me and said
"That wasn't very nice was it Mum?"

I just hugged him. The hug of a Mum who loves her child whether good, silly, naughty or mean. He is my son and i love him regardless. Don't all Mums?

I hope the childs father was a little more receptive to the child's news.

So little person, whoever you are, I am taking a moment out of my day, even if you never ever read this, to say Well done to you. For being star of the day, for getting an award that was well deserved because it was well earned. be proud of yourself, I am proud of you.

Oh dear Lord...it's the wrong kid!

*** Warning - period talk!!***

Well today one of the girls came down to tell me she thinks she has "started". And you guessed it, it was the younger one! She is 11 years old, 12 in October and her body has decided that now is as good a time as any to add to all the issues she already has..changing school, leaving junior school etc etc. I am sure she really didn't need this on top! But it's here, and i guess it's here to stay!
The older daughter was okay with this happening to her sister she's sensible enough to realise its out of all control. But her face dropped when Dad came home with roses for her sister. He bought them for her as her first bouquet as a "lady"..(and all the while i have been saying "it doesnt change you, you are still you and it is not that overnight you become a lady"!! haha)
So one is sad that it's not her getting flowers from Dad and the other is crying because she really doesn't want to be a lady!
We talked a lot previously about "it" happening and how we deal with it all. They are fine to come and ask me about things and worries but i never in a million expected it this soon or with the younger daughter first! I was a late starter and really hoped they would be too!
My heart breaks for my oldest as it has got to be really hard seeing your kid sis develop and start before you.
Has anyone else had this issue arise? Please advise as to how you dealt with it because i really feel stuck between a rock and a hard place!
(Next time round i'm coming back as the Daddy!!)

We have left Junior School!

Well yesterday was Becca's last day at Junior school! She has been saying for a few weeks that she doesnt want to leave, that she wants it to stay the same forever! No matter what i say about being ready for senior school, she is adamant she isnt! I never had any of this with Rae because she could not wait to leave the school and some of the awful kids that were in her class, she left with a spring in her step ready for the next stage in her life. So i kinda left Becca to have a think about it all and how things do actually have to change even if we don't want them too!
So i pop along to collect her from school yesterday and waited...and waited..and waited some more! When she finally came out with her posse of friends, with school shirts all signed by friends and teachers, arms full of books and bits they had made, faces all red and teary(wasn't expecting that!)! Mums were poised waiting for the photo call of our beautiful smiling kids only to find crying girls hugging each other as if we were sending them all to opposite end of the planet!
So after a flurry of phone number exchanges and promises of calls and sleepovers I got to hold my little girl and let her cry onto my shoulder! I really did not expect that kind of reaction from her as she left school for the last time! The poor kid cried on and off all afternoon and into the evening! I guess through all the trials and tribulations of friendships, learning and growing she really had come to love her school and being a part of it all.
To top it all as we got in the car Becca handed me a CD. On the cover was a photo of her classmates she spent the past 3 years with and inside was a music CD made for all the kids in the class by their teacher! It had a compilation of all the songs they had listened to, what the song was, the artist and where they heard it..Fairthorne Manor, DT Music, Tidy up Music, school Xmas Show songs, leavers assembly songs! It also had a note:

"Thankyou for being a wonderful class. I hope that when you listen to these songs you will remember all the fun times we had this year. Love from Mrs Marshall"

I thought it was a really great gift, but it set Becca off again! And listening to it made her worse LOL!!
So she is happier today and we are planning a camp out with her two best buddies in the world. Although they are off to different schools i am sure they will remain close.
I am now off to formulate a plan to get her to like the idea of going to Amery Hill school! LOL.
I will post photos as soon as i upload them all!

We also got the SAT results through!! Level 4 for Maths and 5's for everything else! WTG Becca!